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Blog: My Blog | Tips To Stay Safe with Online DatingOnline personals and dating can be a very fun venue towards
meeting that special someone. However, one's safety should still
be the top priority. Did you know that most online dating
services do not pre-screen their users? This means that they
cannot ensure that the people you meet through their sites are
safe enough to be dealt with. So, this makes you call the shots
when it comes to screening them.
Here are a few tips to make online dating less risky and more
fun:
1. Anonymity Breeds Safety, For Awhile
Giving your real email address, personal web site URL, last
name, phone number, place of work, home address, or any other
information that identifies you in your profile or first few
emails that you exchange with other members makes you an easy
victim. Turn off your signature file, or make sure that it does
not have any identifying information, when sending emails to a
member through your own email.
2. Photo Perfect Request
To give an idea of the person's look, thus make you a tad safer,
request for a picture. A scanned photo won't cost so much, so
not much alibi can be given for not doing it.
3. Lean on Common Sense
Trusting your online acquaintances easily can make you easy
bait. If your gut feel tells you that someone is lying, there's
a big chance that he or she is actually lying. Then, don't go
justifying his or her acts. Look for someone that deserves your
trust. Online intimacy is very dangerous. Don't indulge yourself
on such endeavor at the click of a mouse. Logical thinking will
save you a lot of trouble.
4. Call First, Don't Drool Just Yet
A person's skills when it comes to communicating can be easily
gauged through a phone call. Though it might cost you some
moolah, it still is worth it than risking yourself to falling
for an anti-social. However, to make things a lot safer, use a
cell phone or a pay phone instead of using your land line.
Unless you are absolutely comfortable with the person you are
calling, don't give your home phone number at once.
5. Delay the Meeting
It is advisable to take your time and get to know the person as
much as possible first before saying yes to a face to face
meeting. If he seems to be only spouting or keying saccharine
words that you want to hear, the person on the other end might
have a questionable honesty. Don't feel like you are obligated
to meet anyone, you still have the last say on whether you are
ready to meet the person or not. You are free to change your
mind if anything feels not right.
6. Psychoanalyze or End up with a Psycho
You should pay attention to any signs of intense frustration,
anger or any displays of aggressive behavior. If the person is
trying to control or pressure you, stop the communication. Here
are the other alarming manifestations of bad behavior that when
spotted, should make you stop from communicating with your
online friend: - giving dubious info about appearance, age,
interests, profession, marital status, etc. - refusal to
converse with you over the phone when you have already
established online intimacy - consistently not giving any direct
answers to direct questions, etc. - overly agreeing to your
every statement - asking you to provide travel arrangements
7. Offline Meeting
Before meeting your online dating friend, tell someone reliable
where you will go and when you will return. Leaving your date's
name and phone number is a good idea. Bring your mobile phone.
Don't make your date pick you up at home. Have your own
transportation and meet somewhere public. During the date, don't
leave your drink unattended. After the date, leave on your own
too.
To make online dating work, it is imperative that you exercise
caution. Have ample time to get to know the other person, don't
rush yourself or allow anyone to rush you into doing anything.
It's better to be safe and dateless for a while than sorry.
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Blog: My Blog | Is Online Dating right for you?Should you go online dating? Why not? That is the answer for
many of those undecided and unsure of going Internet Dating.
There are many reasons for doing so, and by being a member of
online dating services, you are expanding your social circle and
raising your hopes to find your perfect match.
Online dating services have grown by leaps and bounds over the
years. Most singles have become members of such online dating
sites, with high success rates.
Here are some reasons why internet dating is perfectly right and
safe for you.
It is fun
In case you did not know or haven't heard yet, online dating is
the most prominent way of meeting attractive and fun people all
over the world. It is a safe, easy, and fun way of meeting and
connecting with many great people. Every month, millions of
singles all over the world are available for instant
communication, with hundreds of thousands signing up as new
members.
Benefits of internet dating
The benefits of online dating are absolutely endless. For
example, most online dating services on the Internet have
millions of members, mostly actives ones that are just waiting
to communication with somebody like you for friendship, lunch or
dinner dates, and possibly even more. The odds of finding a
special mate in these online dating services are very high since
these singles intend to meet someone of you. Imagine the
millions of potential mates in online dating sites.
The icing on the cake of course are the features of most online
dating sites, such as the easy access to the wide profiles of
people, with their photos, audio and video clips available at an
instant. It's like meeting somebody new at the click of a mouse
right in your own home.
Internet Dating is Easy
Online dating sites have hundreds of millions of members. So,
for example, if you don't want somebody because his or her
profile doesn't match you or it doesn't interest you, you could
move on to another profile. Most, if not all, online dating
sites also have features that enable you to state what you look
in for a partner. Say what you like or dislike in a mate, as
well as the things that you do or hobbies, among others. Submit
it to the online dating site where you are a member, then just
wait for emails coming from the online dating services informing
you of their latest possible matches for you! It's that easy!
You don't have to go to the site every day just to check who's
right for you.
If somebody piques your interest, you could send him or her an
instant message or an email. And hopefully, he or she will do
the same. From there, you can take the contact to the higher
level. It is that fast and easy.
Okay, you say, online dating gives you more pros than cons. But,
how to choose from the various online dating sites out there?
Here are some factors that you should consider.
1. Do some budgeting.
Determine how much of your money do you want to be used for
online dating. Do a budget. Some of internet sites require you
to pay one-time fees, while some ask for monthly membership
fees.
2. Seek recommendations.
You could ask friends or colleagues that have become acquainted
with some online dating sites on their tips in looking for a
good dating site. They give additional information not that
available to Internet dating sites.
3. Check available sites.
Check the Internet for possible information for dating websites.
Try to see what sites are the most popular or least visited.
4. Consider specialized sites.
There are also specialized dating sites available. Some are for
seniors, some for homosexuals and some are for different
religious affiliations among others.
5. Weigh the cons and pros.
From you're the internet dating sites that you have checked,
select only the top three for you and compare their advantages
and disadvantages with the rest. Factors to be considered are
the site's success rate, number of members, features, fee costs,
among others.
Online dating has never been this fun. Whether it is for
friendship or a long-term romantic relationship (even marriage),
online dating sites could help you on these areas in just a few
clicks. Isn't that so easy?
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Blog: My Blog | Why Many People Prefer Online DatingGone are the days when dating means courting your future spouse
you met at school or in your neighborhood. Romance could blossom
now with a click of a mouse.
The Internet has become the ultimate haven for singles - without
the drunks, the noise, and the exorbitant cost you pay to be in
the bars desperately hoping to be noticed. Thanks to online
dating sites, you don't have to ask your mother or friend to
help you hook up with someone they think is perfect for you -
which in most cases, isn't.
Some might still believe in the good old traditional dating.
Good luck to them. But not you. You are wise and savvy. You know
that online dating is a better and quicker way of connecting
with other people and getting to know them. You know you can't
meet all the people in the world that might just be your perfect
match. The Internet expands your probabilities, widening your
choices to meet a mate.
What are the additional reasons for checking out online sites?
1. The ability to easily access profiles from the easy access to
a wide variety of profiles. Online sites make you see hundreds
of profiles for a possible match. Clicking on someone that you
have an interest on is so easy with just a click of the mouse.
Vice-versa, others who would also like to talk to you (and
hopefully, just more than that) can also message you.
In traditional dating, you are limited to the social circle that
you have. Your choice then becomes limited. Unlike in online
dating, where choices can be limitless, and is not limited in
your immediate circle of friends and acquaintances.
2. Most reputable dating sites are safe. They are very
particular on this area, enforcing among others, a Code of
Ethics among members, Certification that a member is single, and
background check on criminal record. Check whether the site has
safety nets.
Both traditional and online dating have their dangers, although
dating traditionally, admittedly, has lesser safety risks. But
you can never be too sure. 3. You have the decision to meet or
not to meet somebody. If you do not feel meeting somebody up,
then it is your decision.
Compared with online dating, you feel a sense of pressure when
someone wants you to meet this or that. If your best friend nags
you to meet his or her cousin, how can you say no? In online
dating, the decision to say yes or no is very easy.
4. The accuracy in finding you a good mate increases since the
site has personal profiles for you to look at, personality
tests, and image uploads. Some sites can even have audio and
video capabilities in their personal ads.
Do not ignore these opportunities in improving your personal
ads. Other singles and prospective matches will take a look at
your ads longer if you have video or audio clips in your ad
Personals ads with images of you have a response of 80 percent,
but ads with a video clip or audio clip (or both) have a 97%
response.
Unlike in traditional dating, you get to "know" various kinds of
people in just a few minutes. You could sense someone's
personality without the hassle of actually meeting that person
first.
5. It is relatively affordable and fast. Online dating sites are
cheaper and quicker than arranging a date with somebody referred
to you by a friend. In just a few minutes, your perfect match
could be available.
Of course, internet dating won't guarantee you an easy head
start in dating and romance. After all, like any forms of
dating, online dating takes practice and patience. Online dating
has its downfalls too. Being online does not mean everyone would
be buzzing around you.
That is why when you are using online dating services, you must
take responsibility for your actions, and consider safety risks
as well. After all you are spending money too - money not just
for connecting to the Internet, but also for the minimal fees
you pay for being a member in those sites. Internet dating sites
cost primarily because of two reasons: First, to discourage
fly-by-night creeps who just lurk and are curious in cyberspace.
Second, running a good online dating service costs a lot, which
also includes ensuring that members are safe.
There are vast differences between traditional and online
dating, and it would not hurt you trying dating online.
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Blog: My Blog | Online Dating Can Be ToughHere's a little secret that those of the female persuasion keep
from us guys: Women, even very beautiful women, like to be
approached by a confident and interesting man. Are you
surprised? It's true...and confident and interesting are much
more important than looks to ladies of all ages, too. That's
true for internet dating, as well as, dating in your brick and
mortar world but we're talking about internet dating here...so
back to the subject at hand.
Once you have joined an online dating service, you will find
that there a lot more men than women and that the men are much
more likely to browse profiles and make initial contacts than
women. Yes, it's a woman's world...still. It's "traditional" for
men to make the first move. It always has been and it always
will be. Some things never change. That's why your profile and
picture are so important.
Remember...confident and interesting....and that does not
translate to cocky and self-centered. It's important that your
profile lets people know that you have friends you care about
and that you are passionately interested in a variety of
things...not JUST sports. Another thing about that all-important
profile....please don't start it with, "I'm the guy your mama
warned you about".
You will have just shot yourself in the foot with that line.
Another one to never use is, "I could be the man of your
dreams". The lady HOPES you are but she will be the judge of
that...so don't insult her intelligence. Remember....exude
confidence and interesting and you will find that lady you have
been looking for...or she will find you.
Won't it be nice to have the ladies contacting you instead of
you having to do everything? If you write a great profile that
stands out in the crowd, that will happen.
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Blog: My Blog | Girl On Girl Sex - Hot Tips For First Time LesbianOK...you can't fight it any more; you've always know that you had lesbian tendencies or were, at the very least bi-curious, and now you've decided to explore, explore, EXPLORE...
First off, you've got meet Miss Right (or even Miss Right Now!) and a niche dating site like PlanetSappho is a great place to start. You arrange a date - she's just what you were hoping for...and tonight's really IS the night..so hold on tight...
1) Making out. While making out Lesbian Move #1 can be used, namely you putting one of your legs between hers and grinding it up so that every once in a while it hits the clitoris through her pants. If done by a master of the technique (which I am not, but was done to me) climax can be acheived whilst the bottom is STILL wearing pants.
2) Clothing still on, but hands roaming around in the shirt, touching bare skin.
3) Bra removal (while shirt is still on!) **Important Note** - To mask killing the mood whilst fumbling at the catches, suck on her neck a bit so that she's not thinking about how clumsy you are.
4) LOTS of licking/ear sucking.
5) Shirt/total bra removal.
6) Kissing/licking/sucking upper chest and collarbone area. Optional: If you're a bit buff, reach behind her and like, hug her to you whilst doing this, tightish embraces at this point work fabulously.
7) NO BREASTS YET! Torso Teaser: Take your tongue and run it all the way down (roughly in a straight line between her breasts) until you get to the waistline of her pants, then kiss/lick/suck her stomach and work your way up.
8) NOW you can start in on breasts, but nipple work is last. Swirling your tongue has some fabulous facets to it, as does sucking. BDSM Option - Okay, NOT TOO HARD but just lightly enough to make it shocking, throw in a bit of a slow LIGHT bite, these are nipples here, don't be getting too hardcore with them!
9) Now we're ready for the big guns (since pretty much all of lesbian sex is foreplay, also, if she makes moves to remove bits of your clothing LET HER! Lesbian sex is all about playing switch and taking turns getting one another off. Multiple orgasms in combination with alternating tops make it last a LONG time.
10) Work your way back up and start making out again, if at any time during steps 2-8 you want to break and make out some more, feel free to do so, these are guidelines, not play by play scenarios, sex is a freestyle sport. Also, taking a breast (or two) in hand and kneading it (kinda like dough) is rather helpful every now and again.
11) Work on neck/ear kiss/suck/lick-ing, whilst doing so, work on the buttons of her pants, and the fly. At this point depending on HOW naked the two of you are getting, you can either go for pant/underwear removal, or just work a hand down there. **Foreplay Bonus** - BEFORE you put your hand into her pants, spend some time kneading her inner thighs (through clothes) with some open handed squeezing.
12a) Second Party Masturbation: Okay, the key here is, just think about the things you like doing to yourself during masturbation, that, and FINDING the clitoris on another person, which may take awhile. Also, don't neglect the sides of the clitoris, and for Gods' sakes don't forget to relube every once in awhile. This can be taken care of rather hotly, take your middle finger and dip down, all nerves in the vaginal canal exist in the first 1/3rd of it after the opening anyway, so unless you're hunting down the G-spot or using a strap-on depth really doesn't matter all that much. Single finger penetration at this point, HOT! After you've gotten more lubrication, go back up and continue clitoral stimulation. Your hand is probably going to get excruciatingly tired, BUT KEEP GOING! Because you're probably going to have to speed up the tempo once your partner starts nearing climax, and that hurts like a bitch, but the payoff is worth it.
12b) Going Downtown: This requires total pant removal, to remove the awkwardness from the situation (ie, her pants/underwear are PROBABLY going to get stuck at some point) spend time, when something goes awry, kissing any available skin to make your partner feel sexy and not ridiculous because her pants are stuck. Okay, at this point, Pants/Underwear Are Now Off: There it is, in all of it's furred glory. Note: To make it easier on your partner you should really trim your bush down to a rather manageable size, because the last thing ANYONE wants to do is floss with your pubic hair, and yes, this DOES HAPPEN so be forewarned. Right, now we're working on foreplay-ish things, because that's what the majority of lesbian sex is (when considered by the hetero-realm), foreplay. So kiss/suck/lick her inner thighs, because they're highly sensitive, and if you're absolutely totally lost down there and can't even figure out WHERE the vaginal opening is (much less the clitoris) take ONE finger (depending on how totally gay your partner is, you may only be able to use one finger at ALL during all of this, some women are tighter than others) and do slow penetration again, and then drag it up her inner labial lips until you hit the clit, then you've found your treasure map X. Take your tongue and do the exact same thing you did with your finger, only you don't have to pull off penetration, just the slow upward stroke TO BE CONTINUED!
12c) G-spot: COMING SOON!
12d) Strap-ons: COMING SOON!
13) When ALL of this is over, you better not forget to cuddle! Lest you be likened to *gasp* some crude insensitive straight man. And who wants that?
Good Luck and Good Nights. This public service announcement brought to you to help young inexperienced lesbians everywhere!
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Blog: My Blog | How to attract women easily with these timeless daIt seems that just as a man thinks he figure out how to attract women, he realizes he does not know a thing!
Rather than trying so hard to figure out women, men would do well to spend some time on themselves. Men would do better focusing on personal habits rather than attracting women; that will work better than simply trying to figure out women.
So, what should a man focus on about himself if he wants to attract women? For beginners, men must be groomed and tidy. Gone are the days when hair salons and spas were full of women. Now, it is just as common to see a heterosexual male in a nail technician's chair as it is a woman.
Men should not be afraid to take steps to improve their grooming habits. In addition to attracting women, those in your work place will also take notice. Careers as well as personal lives have been advanced by paying attention to personal appearance.
More and more, men are finding that attracting women means paying attention to their grooming habits. First impressions count and are therefore vital to attracting women, so having a neat personal appearance is a must.
What can a man do to improve grooming habits in order to attract women?
Paying close attention to facial hair is a must. Be sure to ask your barber or hairstylist to trim your eyebrows, nose hair, and ear hair at every hair cut. As for the hair on the head, a man should be certain that he does not go too long between hair cuts if he wants to improve a woman.
In addition to hair, men should also be sure that their nails and hands are free of dirt. Proper skin care can also attract women to a man.
Clothing is another area where men struggle. Women are attracted to men who are well put-together and wrinkle free. If a man is unsure what colors match and what styles best suit him, he should go to several different stores and seek the help of a sales consultant.
Improving appearance also has a side benefit of improving self esteem. Women will be attracted to men who feel confident in themselves rather than those who are not so sure about themselves or their appearance.
The way a man views himself is generally the way a woman will view him as well. If a man does not feel good about the person he is, he should consider therapy so that he can attract a woman who will value him for who he is.
Attracting women is also about setting and attaining goals. Taking the time to figure out goals and set time lines can go a long way towards attracting women. A woman who meets a man who is striving to attain goals knows that the man is serious about his commitments and what he finds important.
In order to attract women, men must always be themselves. When considering appearance, do not change your appearance to match someone you are not. Instead, focus on being the best person you can be, inside and out.
A man who is being himself not only knows exactly who he is, he is unwilling to compromise his behavior in order to please other people. Women are attracted to men who stand for what they believe in and do not back down from a moral challenge.
Being yourself also means being sincere and honest. Women are attracted to men who know themselves well and project themselves in a positive way. Women are attracted to men who will be honest with them during tough times.
When a man knows who he is, is not ashamed of who he is, and tries to be sincere and honest at all times, he will attract women with little difficulty.
Another great way for men to attract women is cultivating an interest in her hobbies.
By showing interest and being willing to participate in her interests, a man is showing a woman that what is important to him is important to her.
A woman who knows a man is trying to tune into what she feels is important is attracted to him. She feels that the man is more concerned with making her happy than making himself happy.
In closing, attracting a woman is sometimes more about a man knowing who he is and taking care of personal grooming habits rather than it asking every woman he meets for a date. Taking time to attend to personal appearance and moral character are great ways of attracting women.
matchmaking, matchmaking, matchmaking,
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Blog: My Blog | Use This Free Method to Meet Women by Scott PattFor busy guys, online dating provides an excellent opportunity to meet interesting women.
In fact, more and more men use these sites to find approach available women in their area.
Now there are many sites like Match.com and AdultFriendFinder.com where you can meet women. But usually these sites generally require a subscription payment. Unfortunately this hinders those guys who have little money.
On the other hand, there are some places where you can meet single women for free.
On social network sites like MySpace.com and Friendster.com, you can contact members for free. Typically these sites offer you the ability to easily locate women who are interested in dating.
However it's important to remember that a lot of members on a social network sites aren't looking for a date. So you have to careful when contact women on these websites. What you should do is locate members who explicitly say they're looking for dating or relationships. Then read her ENTIRE profile and find out a little bit about what she's like. Finally contact her and give a quick introduction about yourself, then let her know what you liked about her.
But don't be an idiot and say some dumb line about her looking hot. (They hate that crap and hear it all the time)
If you tailor your introduction and use some common sense, you'll get a positive response from most women.
On the other hand, don't pester a woman if you don't receive a reply from your message. An unanswered email typically means she has no interest in you. If that's the case, move on and contact somebody else.
While many online dating sites require payment, you can still take advantage of free social networking sites to meet women in your area. Just follow the rules I laid out in this tip and you'll definitely be able to locate attractive and interesting women.
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Blog: My Blog | Adult Dating Tips: Seductive Techniques Using MusiOnline dating for teenagers and young adults seems a relatively simple pursuit requiring little more than an exchange of photographs and a passing reference to some common interests. And that's it, the match is made, although it might not last more than a few days! But for the older and more experienced adult, dating is usually a more complex issue, in which both the man and the woman will expect more from their potential partner.
So why not give yourself a head start and make your profile that much more interesting. Being able to play a musical instrument, particularly an unusual musical instrument, will not only make your profile stand out from the herd but will also arouse much interest and curiosity. At the very least it will get you a few dates quite quickly, but in many cases you will soon find that you have become a veritable magnet to the opposite sex.
Let's take a look at the next four unusual musical instruments you might consider adding to your online dating armory. They range from the most ancient to the most modern, so there is sure to be one to appeal to every musical taste.
LightHarp. The LightHarp uses lasers, spotlights and light sensors to trace virtual strings through space for performers to play. I believe something similar was used by Mr Spok to charm the heart of many an interstellar traveler. The instrument does not produce sound itself, rather it controls computers and synthesizers.
The current version of the LightHarp has been designed in leather by the famous leather artist, Garry Greenwood. The LightHarp is also the World's first Indian computer music instrument and resembles a veena in shape and design. It has a total of 32 light-sensor virtual strings, each of which play either individual notes, music samples or act as frets on a string. But although designed for playing Indian music, the LightHarp is also capable of performing dense polyphonic textures with micro-tonal tunings.
Nano Guitar. Now here's an instrument guaranteed to please the technology-minded lady, and it comes in one convenient pocket-sized package. Keep one by you at all times. You never know when it might come in handy!
The smallest guitar in the world, the Nano Guitar is only 10 micro-meters in length -- about the size of a single cell -- with six strings each about 50 nanometers, or 100 atoms, wide. The original Nano Guitar was made to resemble a Fender Stratocaster. The new, "playable" version, actually about five times the size of the original, is modeled on the Gibson Flying V.
The strings are actually silicon bars, 150 by 200 nanometers in cross-section and ranging from 6 to 12 micrometers in length (a nanometer is a billionth of a meter, the length of three silicon atoms in a row. For comparison, the diameter of a human hair is about 200 micrometers, or 200,000 nanometers). They vibrate at frequencies 17 octaves higher than those of a real guitar, so special listening skills will be required!
Serpent. An instrument with overt sexual overtones and in the right hands a lethal weapon in your armory to seduce your beloved. Just don't overdo it, the effects can be earth-shattering!
The Serpent is an ancient musical wind instrument, related to the modern tuba, invented by Canon Edmé Guillaume in 1590 in France, and was first used to reinforce the sound of church choirs. It was made from wood and blown with a cup shaped mouthpiece. Played softly, it has a firm mellow tone. At medium volume, it produces a robust sound -- something of a cross between the tuba, bassoon and French horn. But when played loudly, the serpent can produce seriously unpleasant noises reminiscent of large animals mating or in distress.
Theremin. The Theremin is perhaps my preferred instrument, and one of the most versatile. But as with all musical instruments worthy of the name, please consider the neighbors and try to perfect your technique before rushing out to try this. Police cells and hospitals have been known to become overcrowded with failed Theremin players.
The Theremin is one of the earliest electronic instruments, the forerunner of the electronic synthesizer. However it is unique in that it is played without ever physically touching it. Invented by the Russian inventor Leon Theremin in the 1920s, the instrument is outfitted with two antennae and when the hands of the player enter the electrostatic field around each antenna, changes in pitch and volume occur.
For years the Theremin enjoyed cult status in sci-fi movies (such as Bernard Herman's score for the 1951 classic The Day the Earth Stood Still) and it is still used today in movies and by a number of contemporary musicians including bands such as Led Zeppelin, Radiohead and Portishead. In fact the Theremin is enjoying a veritable musical renaissance!
I hope you have enjoyed learning about these intriguing musical instruments, mention of any one of which on your adult dating site profile is bound to generate a lot of interest. But it's for you to take it from there!
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Blog: My Blog | The Myths Regarding Expensive Dating by Scot McKForget everything you've ever been brainwashed into believing regarding the importance of spending lots of money on dates. You are impressing nobody by dropping a lot of cash. Instead, you may actually be demonstrating desperation by doing so, if not a downright lack of self-esteem by trying to "buy" someone's affection rather than counting on your own personal charm and giftedness to do the trick.
You've long ago figured out that you are attractive in your own right without having to prop yourself up artificially. So now it's time to live as if you truly believe it. You do not have to spend a lot of money on expensive dinners, lofty bar bills and/or any other such costly entertainment schemes.
In fact, the more natural the setting is the freer you and your date both are to act more like yourselves without any pretense. This translates into a more honest opportunity for evaluation and generally, I might add, a more enjoyable date.
My rule of thumb for planning dates with someone I had a proven interest in was to build the time together around something that I was already planning to do anyway. I happen to enjoy eating out at restaurants, so I had no qualms whatsoever about taking a woman out to eat. After all, if there is a restaurant I'd like to try I would enjoy trying it in the company of someone I like even more, right?
But successful "real dates", for lack of a better description, can be so even if taking someone along with you to perform the everyday tasks of life. I once had an incredible date with a woman whom I took furniture shopping with me. I told her I valued a woman's opinion on the matter and that I would like for her to join me. She was thrilled to do so, and we had a great time. Since my interest level in this woman was high, we shared lunch afterward and spent the afternoon together. But it's important to note that there was no high-pressure "agenda" on the date itself. The entire day flowed naturally based on mutual chemistry. Isn't that how it should be?
On another day I decided to get out of the house for a couple of hours on a Saturday morning prior to plans I had with a group of 20-30 friends of both genders that afternoon. I chose to share a late breakfast with a woman whom I had seen a couple of times previously and ended up truly enjoying our time together. Based on how breakfast went, I suggested she join me for the get together my friends were having that afternoon. We had great conversation throughout the hour drive there and back, and she had a great time at the get together. So overall, we had a terrific day sharing each other's company.
The most crucial takeaway from that story as it pertains to this discussion, however, remains the point that I was going to hang out with my friends ANYWAY that day. Taking my female friend with me was a bonus. And it was an excellent demonstration of the brand of efficiency we have been discussing for the past two sections. The elegance in scheduling combined with the concept of very low financial expenditure had no detrimental effect on our attraction level to one another whatsoever. In fact, the quality of the conversation together in the car combined with her visibility into the fact that I had lots of real friends contributed to her increase in interest level towards me. And I found myself more attracted to her as well by the end of the day.
And that, my friends, is what it is all about.
If you have virtually unlimited financial means and can spend money without the appearance of attempting to "buy" someone's affection, by all means don't let me stop you from doing so. But knowing that dating is a potentially costly sport when spinning out of control, my desire is to free you from any socially-imposed (and misguided) tradition that states that you MUST spend a lot of money to "impress" a date. You most certainly do not. Make this thought process your own and forever banish financial concerns from your dating life.
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